Saturday, April 28, 2007

First Impressions...back in Salt Lake & Utah


Freak out Salt Lake City
Originally uploaded by GafferBee.

First impressions:

There are a lot of mormons here. They are kind of everywhere, which once you've got not used to is weird to get used to again.

They have the best radio stations in the world in SLC. How is it that they are smaller than Phoenix and supposedly (based on what I just said in the previous paragraph...which I realize is going to sound badly biased) less sophisticated/worldly/hip whatever you want to call it. How is it that they have always been on the cutting edge music wise. You can listen to ANY kind of music on the radio here - and you can listen to really good underground indy type music that you just can't find anywhere on the dial in Phoenix. I don't get it. I always miss this about Utah when I come back to Phoenix.

They have CHEESE CURDS!!!! Cheese curds, just sitting next to all the fancy cheeses in the grocery store. I mean, I think I might have found them in Phoenix like once but they are plentiful here and I love, love, love them.

People drive older more beat up cars here and the neighborhoods are often sketchy looking but people still think of them as "safe". Which is a mistake I think. I mean ... I don't know, it just occurs to me that maybe mormons are a tad too trusting at times. They still don't ever lock there doors here - nobody I know does anyway.

My sister in laws house is across from the light rail and that dang train goes past literally every 5 minutes I think. And the train itself is very quiet but the darn little ding, ding, ding, warning thing at the cross road is annoying as all get out.

It's not hot. Which is weird too - because I was sort of starting to get used to that. But it's hot enough for a/c and they never use it so ironically, being spoiled by the a/c in Phoenix...it's HOT inside the house. (probably like about 82 or something)

That is all for now. I will go to church tomorrow and tell you what that seems like.

Thursday, April 26, 2007

Exhaustion


Exhaustion
Originally uploaded by out_of_rhythm.

The summer I turned twelve years old and could go to girls camp for the first time I got really, really ill. So ill I was in bed -or more acurately on the couch for days and I was so ill my mom finally took me to the doctor. Now some background on the doctor in question might be in order. We always went to Dr. Withers and Dr. Withers was always really nice and always gave lolipops and he wasn't a pediatrician (did they even have pediatricians in small towns back then?) but he was our whole family's doctor. Anyway, he would do things like give you a shot of kenalog (sp?) when you had allergies - which is kind of like giving someone a shot of morphine when they have a head ache and really only need an aspirin. But we liked that about Dr. Withers I think. Anyway, he diagnosed me with "exhaustion" and said I just needed to stay in bed for days. (maybe there was some paragoric invovled, I don't remember...but paragoric was usually involved in any illness situation in my house - my parents did not have any idea they were just giving us massive doses of pain killers and not curing anything - they thought it was some sort of miracle cure all drug and they gave it to us for everything - now it's a highly controlled narcotic - my mom always made me drink it and told me it was like"black licorice" which is why I can't stand black licorice to this day...but I digress)

Anyway, what they heck is exhaustion for real? I did not get to go to girls camp. And I really did feel horribly ill. But more in a "there's no way I coudl get up out of this bed if I wanted to" kind of way. And now...it seems odd.

Because what on earth could have been so EXHAUSTING when I was 12. I mean, I almost wish I could get it now - but not really, because I don't have time to be ill for heaven's sake, I'm a mom.

Does this condition really exist or was this some weird psychosomatic reaction I had to the idea of going to girl's camp? I really don't know.

But I sure have a lot more reasons to be exhausted now than I did then.

Monday, April 23, 2007

My inverted world


Green Orb
Originally uploaded by bandanamomaz.

This is a photo I took a while back. It's pretty simple, it was just a marble while I was standing in my front room aimed towards the window, reflecting what is basically the world out my front door. That's my tree updside down and the neighbors house and my yard.

Right now my world feels a little like this - like everything is inverted somehow. I leave this Saturday for school and I was actually on the BYU website this morning trying to figure out parking - since I'm renting a car they won't let me buy a parking pass that has like a hang tag - you HAVE to attach it - and they are very rigid about this. And I definitely get the feeling that they are not very sympathetic to my situation and the fact that I will have a rental car - and a different rental car, every week.

I was getting frustrated but then I remembered - hey, I never had a parking pass the entire time I went to school before anyway! I really didn't. My parents probably would have given me the money for one but as it was they were already paying for everything and they were putting a certain amount of money in bank account every week (I don't really remember how much it was but I remember at the time the ATM machines would let you get out money in $5 increments and that's usually how much I got out - I think I would use $2 to get gas in the car - cause it was always running almost on empty and then the other $3 would keep me in food for a while. Mostly because the main thing I ate was 44 oz. diet cokes from the gas station next door to my apartment and pink cookies. Pink cookies were this odd thing that started in Provo. In fact, I knew a girl who worked there and frosted them. They were called Grandma's cookies and they were delicious and to die for. My friend Sam turned me on to them first because this girl...I can't remember her name, used to work there frosting them all night and she could bring home the screw ups, the ones that didn't come out quite right. Anyway, they were super, seriously delicious. Then they started to mass market them and now every super market in the country tries to mass produce them - well, something that looks like them. And they are ALWAYS very disappointing. Anyway, I diverge from my original point....

Which was what? Oh yeah. That I learned how to dodge the campus police back then and even though I'm WAY older and not as quick now - I think I'm smarter. So I can probably do it again.

But yeah, even thinking about going back - being there, parking, going to class. Is making me feel like I'm living in some kind of weird inverted world.

Wednesday, April 18, 2007

Adopted!


Adopted! Bizzy Lizzy
Originally uploaded by Purrs & Paws of A.R.A.S..

If you go on flickr and you type in a search for the word "adopted" about a thousand pictures of cats and dogs come up first, then later there are some other assorted odd animals, a goat, a couple of ducks and much later you get people adopting roads. One was a little girl "adopting" a doll.

No children.

Because really, we don't want to so much talk about this.

Adopting children.

But it's an awful lot like adopting cats and dogs. There are extra cats and dogs in the world - too many of them for people to take care of. And we spend a significant amount of energy and money taking these creatures into our homes and providing them with food and care and shelter and hopefully love. Because all creatures really need love.

And adopting babies is the same. There are often extras. Ones who will not be taken care of if not taken in. And kind souls take these extras in and provide them with food and clothes and shelter and hopefully love. They are a longer time committment, but it's similar.

And really, when you go off to adopt a cat or a dog - I mean you might have a preference - well we want a quiet dog - we don't want a yappy dog that barks all the time. Maybe you want a small energetic dog. Or just a really pretty and very friendly cat. I mean, you have some idea of what you are looking for. And if you go through most normal channels for adoption you are given a chance to interact with the animal - get an idea if this is what you are looking for. You see it, you get a chance to decide. But mostly this is all speculation because if you are adopting a puppy or a kitten, you can only guess what this animal is really going to turn out like - it might not even stay the same colors. You can't really tell if it's smart or not - not REALLY. You just try to get a general idea and you take a chance.

And babies are exactly the same. In fact the way the process usually works is that the birth mother decides who is going to adopt her baby. But this involves a lot of guess work on her part too. And back in the 1950-1970s this didn't really even enter into the equation. Some random go between person made these decisions. These look like nice people - they want a baby - this girl is probably going to have a pretty baby. Let's hook this situation up. Win, win.

But it's the same. It's unpredictable. You don't know what you're getting. You just know you want a baby. And that baby is just going to turn out however it is going to turn out. I mean you can put all the nurture into the situation that you want. But there's still this 50% nature part of the equation that you really can't control.

And the baby? What about the baby? Well, no one really thinks about that. But they THINK it's all about the baby. It's all about making sure the baby is okay.

But it's not really okay. It's not ever really okay. It never really will be. But just like adopted animals - they adjust, they adapt, they learn to do whatever it is they have to do to get the love that the need. The food and shelter are important and everything...but the LOVE? That's the thing that they wlll learn to do tricks for.

We adjust.

Sunday, April 15, 2007

little wounded sparrow, i


little wounded sparrow, i
Originally uploaded by McBeth.

So last night we had the bbq (I NEVER know the proper spelling for that odd word) for all of the people from Art One Gallery. It ended up being Kraig, Jeffrey, Andy and his girlfriend and then Holden invited Noelle. It was nice. I think they had an okay time despite the fact that most bbq's they attend probably involve alcohol. We tried to make up for that by buying a bunch of pop from pops soda shop in Scottsdale. But I'm not sure it did the trick.

At any rate, I did enjoy myself and I found myself spending quite a lot of time talking with Andy. I don't know how old Andy is exactly - he is college age but just barely. I think he either graduated last year or the year before - I think the year before, which means he's probably about 20. The more I find out about these boys that Kraig seems to take in as employees the more they seem like wounded little birds to me. So fragile and so difficult at th same time. Wounded birds really don't want to be held most of the time - particularly if they are wild, and yet that is what is required to help them.

I realized at some point I was giving Andy advice that I really believed in for Andy but I also realized Holden could over-hear what I was saying and I had to stop myself mid-sentence and say "this doesn't apply to you- this only applies to Andy!" And by that I just meant that I expect more from Holden. And then I started to wonder about how fair that is. I mean, Andy has tried college two different semesters and dropped out both times and he really has no clue what he wants to do with his life. His work ethic is good but he would rather stumble on a get rich quick scheme than really figure out a plan. And he has this absolutely stunningly gorgeous girlfriend who is going to be a pre-med major next year at UofA and I just don't have the heart to tell him - Andy this isn't going to work. She might really love it - and I have that romantic bit in me that wants things to be like John Cusack and Ione Skye in "Say Anything" where in the end he ends up going to England w/ Ione (Diane) and she turns to him at one point and she says "people don't think we are going to work...people don't think we are going to last do they?" and here she is going off to Oxford on some great oppportunity and here Cusack is just being...well, mostly he's interesting in kickboxing and just being Diane's boyfriend. And he turns to her and he says one of the most romantic things ever - he says "you've just described every great success story". And I have always LOVED that. Loved that about that movie and thought I really sorta believed in that. Because I know what that's like to have someone not believe in your life - in your ideas, in your love story even.

But there was this part of me yesterday looking at Andy's girlfriend Julia and she's just pretty in this classically great sense - like there's no way she's ever going to loose her looks because it's just not possible. And there's Andy. And he's skinny and sorta indy looking and she probably thinks he's a really cool boyfriend to have right now and maybe there's even a bit of a rebellion to it - I have no idea, she doesn't seem like the rebellious type but who knows. But I just thought "Oh Andy...." this can't work. If you don't get some kind of plan together you are not going to be able to stay together.

And I think that's made me sorta sad today. Like I really want that ending of "Say Anything" to really be true. I really want Lloyd Dobbler to be a real guy out there and I want to see that story really come to life - and this is the closest thing I've ever seen. But I guess somewhere inside me...I just don't know if it will happen.

So yeah....wounded sparrows. Kraig seems to find them everywhere. And he's prettty good at fixing them back up and sending them off into the world again. I'm not sure how good he is at taking care of himself - but taking care of other people, that seems to be his forte. And I don't think he has any real idea how much better he has made our lives and how much richer we are for knowing him.

And then I realize - I am so much like him in a sense. Not exactly - I mean, he tends to find little wounded birds that are almost exact replica's of the type of wounded bird he was at their same age - (and I suspect deep down...still just as wounded, but more functional and directed). And I guess I do that too - I guess I much more interested in people with a story. People with an issue. People who have that little missing peice. And I guess that is just part of the legacy of being a kind of a wounded sparrow myself.

You can fix a wounded bird. But I'm not sure if they're ever really the same. I think somehow, their wings never quite work right, or their skittish, or they don't survive in the wild. There's always some kind of permanent damage done.

And it sure is easy to find all the other wounded birds too - and oh so many of us there are.

Thursday, April 12, 2007

Wednesday, April 11, 2007

BYU = are you serious?


BYU
Originally uploaded by newfoundbeauty05.
I can't believe I'm going back here. I can't believe I'm 39 and I'm freaking going back to school.

The last time I was there I was in my early 20s, Oingo Boingo was really cool, there was an awesome dance club called "Plastique", my friends were all skaters and played in a band called "Second Thoughts". I took school semi-seriously and stalking my really cute French Grad Student/Prof. quite seriously. I learned how much I loved Morrissey. I learned to love Kurt Vonnegut and JD Salinger. I made my own t shirts out of sharpies and boys undershirts. I loved wearing ripped jeans to class and getting away with it (we weren't suppose to...dress code nonesense) I loved reading the underground student paper which the adminstration hated. I loved going to the French and Italian Cinema and Foreign films showed on campus every Friday. Loved my philosophy class taught by an ex-hippie professor, who somehow recognized a fellow rebel in me and gave me all A's on my papers in spite of the fact that I looked like pretty much everyone else in that class. I loved going into SLC for Rocky Horror Picture Show - and sometimes Nannette and I would chicken out and not go to the RHPS - because the crowd looked "wrong" somehow. Loved going to SLC to the bookstore "cosmic aerplane", loved how it smelled and I loved picking out used books. There was a head shop downstairs but we never really went in there, just the rest of the store was seriously awesome (and sadly, it is gone now). I had an absolutely marvelous time there in so many ways.

And now?

To go back?

Crazy. I am a surburban housewife with 3 children and TONS of grown up responsibilities and it will be completely nuts to fly there back and forth every week like I am some kind of corporate commuter. Crazy.

I don't even know if I'm doing the right thing or not but I feel like I'm on some trajectory I can't quite stop.

Tuesday, February 20, 2007

Weld Boat House, Harvard


Weld Boat House, Harvard
Originally uploaded by Keith Dotson.
Holden has been at Harvard this week competing for Speech and Debate. Perhaps he'll be inspired. I think you can't help but be inspired by the beauty of an old campus like Harvard.

Friday, February 09, 2007

Anna Nicole Smith


Anna Nicole Smith
Originally uploaded by krandolph.
The fact that she died didn't really make me particularly sad but I must say that she was really amazing looking. You couldn't watch her without being astounded by it. As messed up as she was, you had to admire her bravado I think. I didn't realize until she died that she was my age.

Saturday, February 03, 2007

More reasons I love the church (and why it's okay to be a democrat)


Mormon Temple Blue Sky
Originally uploaded by miller23464.
In light of my recent mormon and democrat post I found the following article very insightful - and interestingly, linked on the church's website with the notation that this article acurately portrays the church's position on politics and political issues:

When Mitt Romney's religion is mentioned these days, we often hear that Mormons and evangelicals, despite theological differences, are on the same page politically. But while Mormon voters are among the country's most conservative, there are key issues on which they don't line up neatly with the religious right.

An undated illustration depicting the death of Mormon founder Joseph Smith, who was killed by a mob in Illinois while running for president in 1844.
By Drake Bennett | December 31, 2006
DESPITE ALL THE attention Mitt Romney's religion has received, when he formally launches his campaign for president sometime in the next few weeks -- as he is widely expected to do -- he won't be the first Mormon to run for the office. Just six years ago, Senator Orrin Hatch of Utah made a short-lived presidential bid, and in 1967 Romney's own father, George, then governor of Michigan, was the early front-runner for the Republican nomination (until, notoriously, he blamed a "brainwashing" for his earlier support for the Vietnam War).
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In fact, the phenomenon of Mormons running for president is almost as old as the religion itself. Joseph Smith, founding prophet of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (LDS), as the church is officially known, himself ran in 1844. Smith never had much of a chance, and he was shot to death by an Illinois mob that June, in one of the many instances in which hostility toward the insular church and its beliefs bubbled over into violence.
Not only was there the Mormon practice of polygamy (formally renounced by the church in 1890), but Smith espoused a political and social worldview regarded as dangerously radical by many who had come into contact with the growing Mormon settlements. Smith was an abolitionist, for one thing; and he argued for the communal ownership of property. According to Richard Bushman, an emeritus professor of history at Columbia University and a biographer of Smith, Mormons identified strongly with the revolutionaries who would roil Europe in 1848.
Today many Americans remain deeply skeptical about the LDS church. Recent polls have found that around 40 percent of Americans say they would not vote for a Mormon for president -- though nearly as many said they would have reservations voting for a Catholic in 1960, the year Joh n F. Kennedy won the White House. Many conservative Christians, especially Catholics and evangelicals, still consider Mormons -- who follow non-biblical works of scripture, teach that God has a physical body, and believe in the possibility of direct revelation and that people can evolve toward godhood -- to be members of a cult.
But the left-wing radicalism once associated with the religion has disappeared. Mormons today are reliable Republicans. According to Joseph Quin Monson, a political scientist at LDS-owned Brigham Young University, they are "almost as monolithically Republican as African-Americans are Democratic." They tend on most major issues to be culturally and economically conservative, and in the past few presidential elections 80 to 90 percent of Mormons have voted for the Republican candidate.
All in all, in the words of Mark Noll, a historian of American Christianity at the University of Notre Dame, "politically considered, white evangelicals and Mormons look very similar."

It is this alignment that Romney has tried to exploit in courting his party's vital conservative Christian bloc. He has emphasized his opposition to embryonic stem-cell research, and sought to distance himself from earlier statements that suggested moderate views on same-sex marriage and abortion. According to Gregory Rodriguez, a political analyst at the New America Foundation, Romney has even called himself an "evangelical Mormon."
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Indeed, when Romney and others talk about his Mormonism in the context of the coming campaign, the assumption is that, despite the theological differences between LDS and evangelicals, politically the two groups are on the same page.
But while few dispute the social conservativism of the LDS church and its members, it is also true that on some key issues they don't fall neatly into line with the religious right's priorities.
To be sure, Mormons and conservative Christians, both Catholic and evangelical, are on the same side of two of the bitterest culture-war battles being fought today, over gay marriage and abortion. On others, though -- stem-cell research, the teaching of evolution in schools, public funding for religion, and end-of-life care -- the LDS church is harder to pin down. In part this is due to the church's unique theology, but it may also derive from Mormonism's early history as a marginal sect suspicious of (and suspected by) the US government. Mormons today are among the nation's most patriotic groups, but many retain a sharp sense of their minority status.
Romney himself has been quick to point out that he is not running as a representative of his religion. And like John F. Kennedy, he has demonstrated over the years a certain independence from his church. And yet, lost in the discussion of Romney and Mormonism is that, unlike Kennedy, Romney's stances on key issues dear to the religious right may actually make him more conservative than his own church.
It was in the 1970s that the LDS church as an institution moved definitively into the political arena. As with white evangelicals, the galvanizing issues were the Equal Rights Amendment and Roe v. Wade, both of which the church saw as a threat to the nuclear family. Today, similar concerns animate the church's vocal opposition to same-sex marriage.
The church remains pro-life. But the official Mormon position on abortion differs in one key respect from that of the Catholic Church and many Protestant denominations: to the LDS church, abortion is not murder. The reason for this is that (again, unlike many Christian denominations) Mormon theology has no clear position on when a body acquires a soul -- when, in effect, earthly life begins. "Since they don't define when the soul enters the body, they can't call abortion murder, they simply say it's 'like unto it,'" says Richard Sherlock, a professor of philosophy and expert on Mormon ethics at Utah State University.

As a result, the LDS church takes a more flexible approach to abortion than many other churches, opposing what it calls "elective abortion for personal or social convenience," but allowing abortions in the case of rape, incest, fatal fetal deformities, or when the health of the mother is at risk. Just as significantly, it does not throw its weight behind legislative efforts to limit or outlaw abortion. In short, neither the Mitt Romney who ran for Senate in 1994 vowing to keep abortion safe and legal, nor the more recent "firmly pro-life" Romney, would be in the wrong according to the teachings of his church.
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On abortion, such theological distinctions may not make much difference to many Mormons, the overwhelming majority of whom identify themselves as pro-life. But on the question of stem-cell research, which has become a major issue for the conservative Republican base, the official ambiguity on when life begins has had far more tangible political effects.
The LDS church has no official position on stem-cell research, but according to Dan Jones, a leading Utah pollster, more than 60 percent of the Mormons in the state, who tend to be among the country's most conservative, support it. Orrin Hatch is one of Congress's leading proponents of federal stem-cell funding, and his four Mormon colleagues in the Senate (Senator Harry Reid, a Democrat, and Senators Michael Crapo, Gordon Smith, and Robert Bennett, all Republicans) have taken similar positions.
In public appearances, Romney has credited his thinking about the moral consequences of stem-cell research with having led him toward a more conservative position on other reproductive issues, like abortion and emergency contraception. And while this shift may have made him a more viable national Republican candidate, on the stem-cell issue at least, it has placed him outside the mainstream of his own faith.
If this divergence between conservative Christians and Mormons springs from theology, another originates in the church's early history at the margins of American society. For Mormons, says Armand Mauss, a sociologist at the Claremont Graduate University School of Religion specializing in Mormon political and social attitudes, "there is an acute awareness of their own history as a persecuted people," a tendency "to lean on the side of freedom of expression for all different kinds of groups."
This history has translated into a respect for the constitutional separation of church and state not always popular on the religous right. John Green, a senior fellow in religion and American politics at the Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life, describes Mormons as having "a special sensitivity to relations with the government." While evangelical leaders like Pat Robertson and James Dobson have publicly supported the Bush administration's funding for faith-based programs, for example, the LDS church has refused to participate in the initiative out of a fear that with government money comes government control (several conservative Christian organizations, including the Southern Baptist Convention, have taken similar positions).

For the most part -- and despite evidence, recently reported by the Globe, that Romney aides had talked to LDS church leaders about creating a network of Mormon supporters for the upcoming campaign -- the church is conscientious about keeping partisan politics separate from religious matters. Aside from what it sees as issues relating to "how children are raised," says Jan Shipps, widely considered the leading non-Mormon historian of the religion, the church's leaders tend to shy away from taking political action (doing so would, of course, also endanger the church's nonprofit status). Polling done by BYU's Quin Monson and Notre Dame political scientist David Campbell found that, between Catholics, Southern Baptists, and Mormons, as the two write, "Mormons are by far the least likely to receive political cues at church."
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Because of this insistence on separate religious and political spheres, Mormons appear less likely to wade into other culture-war debates, such as the teaching of evolution. Duane Jeffery, a BYU professor of biology and a leading opponent of teaching intelligent design in science classes, says the issue hasn't had the same resonance for Mormons as it has for many evangelical communities -- not because the LDS church is full of diehard Darwinists (the church has no official policy on the subject) but because Mormon parents, by and large, are satisfied that their children are getting their religious instruction through the often daily seminary classes the church runs for them. "In general," he says, "most of them feel that there's not much reason to get politically involved" over the issue.
On the issue of school prayer, which conservative evangelicals overwhelmingly favor, Mormons are divided. In Utah, according to the pollster Dan Jones, most Mormons support it. Polling numbers outside of Utah are harder to come by, but some political scientists and sociologists of the church argue that Mormons living elsewhere see school prayer as a threat. Two-thirds of American Mormons live outside the Mormon strongholds of the Western mountain states, and as BYU political scientist Richard Davis puts it, "There's a little more uneasiness about it because of the realization that they're a minority." The 2000 Supreme Court case Santa Fe Independent School District v. Doe, which outlawed student-led prayers before football games, was brought by a Mormon family in Texas.
That is not to say that the church refrains from telling its members what sort of life to lead (devout Mormons cannot drink alcohol, smoke, or have caffeine), but it often allows them the freedom to make decisions that other conservative churches would balk at. During the heated debate over the fate of Terri Schiavo, for example, the Mormon church reiterated its position that, "Members should not feel obligated to extend mortal life by means that are unreasonable."
"There are fewer fixed dos and don'ts" for Mormons, says Sherlock. On end-of-life issues, he says, "the Mormon Church says, 'Think about it, pray about it, and get the best answer you can."'
It's this idea that Romney himself seemed to refer to in a 1994 interview with the Boston-based gay and lesbian newspaper Bay Windows, in which he rooted what was then his strong support for gay rights in his religion. Drawing on the Mormon concept of "free agency" -- the idea that, despite God's foreknowledge of what we will do, we are still free to choose our actions -- he made a political argument about the value of tolerance. "Our society should allow people to make their own choices and live by their own beliefs," he argued.
Since those comments resurfaced a few weeks ago, Romney has been pressed to reconcile them with his now strident opposition to same-sex marriage. On that issue, Romney's newly assertive conservatism places him in step with his church. On others, though, he seems more a conservative evangelical than a Mormon.

Sunday, January 14, 2007

Displaced meaning.


Displaced meaning.
Originally uploaded by Evan Lane.
Some thoughts on being a mormon and a democrat.

It's very FRUSTRATING to say the least. I get really tired of having to defend my position so frequently. At the same time though, I'm really thankful for it all.

Here are some articles that help explain a lot about the issues:

http://www.geocities.com/Athens/Oracle/7207/demosp.html

http://media.www.dailyutahchronicle.com/media/storage/paper244/news/2004/04/14/Opinion/Im.A-Democrat.Because.Im.A.Mormon-659584.shtml?sourcedomain=www.dailyutahchronicle.com&MIIHost=media.collegepublisher.com

http://newsnet.byu.edu/story.cfm/24239

And here is an article I have copied ver batim that I have a hard time locating on the internet sometimes. It's interesting. It doesn't really advocate for being either a democrat or a republican but rather explains that certainly there are BOTH types of mormons in Washington DC.

"They sipped fruit juice and dined on filet mignon
while chatting about baptisms, weddings, missions -
and running the country... Condoleezza Rice's newest
assistant at the State Department? Mormon. The lawyer
who wrote the famed "torture memo"? Mormon. The CIA
analyst who provided the agency's estimate - faulty,
as it turned out - about weapons of mass destruction?
You guessed it..."
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http://www.sltrib.com/ci_2648350

LDS take capital steps
Members increasingly influential in Washington scene

By Peggy Fletcher Stack
and Robert Gehrke

The Salt Lake Tribune
Article Last Updated:04/11/2005 06:53:25 AM MDT

WASHINGTON - Last month, 800 Mormons packed a ballroom
in the Georgetown Marriott for a meeting of the
Brigham Young University Management Society. They
sipped fruit juice and dined on filet mignon while
chatting about baptisms, weddings, missions - and
running the country.

This is D.C. table talk - Mormon style. And its echoes
can be heard in the halls of Congress.
Though their numbers are still relatively small,
legions of Latter-day Saints are tucked into every
corner of the nation's capital. And we're not just
talking about Orrin Hatch, Bob Bennett, Harry Reid and
Mike Leavitt.
Mormons are key figures in the Peace Corps, the
Bureau of Land Management and
--
Profiles of Mormons in D.C.
Romney's faith in the spotlight again, (4/10/05)

D.C. Mormons: The Players
Sheldon Bradshaw

David Gribbin

D. Kyle Sampson

Rodney J. Brown

Royal Shipp

Richard L. Hanneman

Randal Quarles
--
the Treasury Department. They oversee the White House
law office. They advise Congress on international
affairs, religious freedom, Social Security, housing,
land use, education reform and matters of war.
Condoleezza Rice's newest assistant at the State
Department? Mormon. The lawyer who wrote the famed
"torture memo"? Mormon. The CIA analyst who provided
the agency's estimate - faulty, as it turned out -
about weapons of mass destruction? You guessed it.
The Salt Lake Tribune talked to nearly 40 Mormons
in the D.C. area, power brokers who quietly serve the
interests of their country and of their church. Their
presence is a boon to the Salt Lake City-based Church
of Jesus Christ
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of Latter-day Saints, which maintains a public
affairs office just down the street from the White
House and has a high-powered advisory committee to vet
national and international issues that affect the
church's vital interests.
And yet, Utah church officials would rather not
talk about it. They refused to allow their D.C.
counterparts to be interviewed, saying the church
wants to maintain "a low profile."
That could change very soon. Massachusetts Gov.
Mitt Romney is considering a run for the U.S.
presidency in 2008. Already, Mormons are rallying
around him, raising money, even as journalists
speculate on how the "Mormon network" might help or
hurt his candidacy.
It's quite a turnaround for a church and a
government that, just a century ago, seemed
incompatible. And it didn't happen by accident.



The art of networking

Kay Atkinson King spends her days discussing the
arms embargo on China, reading about Libyan weapons or
examining European/American antagonisms. She's a
senior staff analyst to Rep. Tom Lantos, a California
Democrat whose wife also happens to be Mormon. King is
smart, sophisticated, indispensable.
She's also quintessentially Mormon - a devoted
grandmother who sings in the choir and is the first
woman to be president of the BYU Management Society in
its 21 years.
King grew up in Salt Lake City, graduated from the
University of Utah and earned a doctorate in
linguistics at UCLA. While working in an MIT research
lab, she met her future husband, Bob King, who was
studying international relations at the Fletcher
School of Law and Diplomacy in Boston.
The couple moved to D.C. in 1983, just as LDS
visibility hit its apex during the Reagan-Bush era.
You had White House domestic affairs adviser Roger
Porter, national security adviser Brent Scowcroft,
National Institute of Health Director James Mason,
U.S. Solicitor General Rex Lee, Education Secretary
Terrel Bell, pollster and political adviser Richard
Wirthlin. Dick Richards was chairman of the Republican
National Committee.
Today, the Mormon influence of people like the
Kings is less obvious, but broader.
The LDS population in greater Washington has
swelled to 50,000, with about 20 congregations,
including four singles wards. There are 10 times that
many Catholics in D.C., and many more Protestants than
Mormons in Congress. But what makes Mormonism unique
is its ethos of helping fellow believers, a practice
that goes back to Brigham Young's cooperative
societies.
Any Mormon who moves to Washington has an instant
group of friends at church, where members talk freely
about their jobs and lives. There are dinner groups,
book clubs, political cliques and even Daughters of
the Utah Pioneers.
Each ward and stake (like a diocese) has an
"employment specialist" who shares computer lists,
phone numbers and job openings. Mormon convert Angela
Bay Buchanan, the former U.S. Treasurer, sister of Pat
Buchanan and conservative activist, held this position
in her Virginia stake for years.
"Our assignment was not only to find people jobs
but to help them connect," says Carolyn White, an Air
Force attorney who has lived in D.C. since 1987.
BYU is another pipeline. In addition to the
management society, it also sponsors the J. Reuben
Clark Law Society, which helps place Mormon lawyers.
Last year, Justin Harding, a staffer in Utah Rep. Rob
Bishop's office, founded the Latter-day Saint
Congressional Staff Organization. It has more than 90
registered members.
Greg Prince's biotechnology company created an
internship with Dixie College. Omar Kader, a
government contractor who helps small businesses in
the Middle East, looks for returned missionaries at
Weber State, the University of Utah and Utah State
University; now 14 percent of his work force is LDS.
Of course, there are the Marriotts.
Since 1927 when J. Willard and Alice Marriott set
up their first A&W Root Beer stand near downtown
Washington, the hospitality company has been a magnet
for LDS workers. The company's ethical reputation has
helped every Mormon who came later.
Mormons are disproportionately represented in the
Central Intelligence Agency, which has long sought out
Latter-day Saints with language skills.
This link started with LDS Apostle Neal A.
Maxwell, a former CIA employee who set the example for
future Mormon agents. It was an easy fit, says a
Mormon who recently retired as a senior official in
the agency. Mormons are patriotic in the extreme,
accustomed to respecting authority and not too likely
to have secrets or embarrassments in their history.
Plus, the official says, they can pass the
polygraph and drug tests.
Mormon lobbyists also use the network to promote
their causes. At church, Hatch and Bennett are
sometimes approached by members eager to get a
hearing, an appointment or at least a nod from a
powerful senator.
And it goes both ways. When a lobbyist told
Bennett he couldn't reach a federal bureaucrat who was
blocking a terrorism insurance bill the senator was
pushing, Bennett replied, "I'll just talk to him at
church."
There's nothing conspiratorial about such
connections. It's how everyone in D.C. does it.
"My work now intersects with Congressman [Jeff]
Flake from Arizona, who happens to have studied in my
same program at BYU," says Kathleen Moody, senior
adviser to the assistant secretary of state for
African Affairs. "He's on my African subcommittee. His
legislative assistant happens to be my [LDS] home
teacher."
Church is church and work is work, Moody says, and
such links are not a big deal.
Not all Mormons use the network, though.
"I don't look for anyone's religion and I don't
depend on a religious network to accomplish my work,"
says Cynthia Hilton, of the Institute of Makers of
Explosives. "I think it's almost an abuse to use a
religious association to advance a political agenda."

Serving the church
For some, it is natural - and legitimate - to try
to help their church.
"You have a desire to give your time, talent and
energy to building the kingdom," lobbyist Bill Nixon
says. "It doesn't end at the chapel door or the office
door. It's part of your life."
Mormons throughout the government have resolved
tax problems, property issues, visa denials, religious
discrimination and the like.
Randal Quarles, assistant secretary of the Treasury
for International Affairs, discussed discrimination
against the LDS Church with the government in Ecuador.
Kader used his Middle East contacts to get the church
a toehold in Jordan. Nixon smoothed the way for LDS
humanitarian efforts in places like Afghanistan by
linking it up with some of his clients.
But their church is extra sensitive about asking
for official help from members, they say. They often
have to find out its needs from other sources.
"It doesn't want to be seen as using its influence
with church members," Bob King says.
In 1997, the Russian Parliament passed a law that
would have severely restricted the activities of some
foreign faiths, including the LDS Church. Bennett went
there representing all those that would have been
disenfranchised. Fellow Mormon Sen. Gordon Smith of
Oregon introduced legislation requiring Russia to be
fair in how it implemented the law before it could get
U.S. aid.
When Bennett was first elected, he met with
Apostle Maxwell, who told him: "We won't bother you
very much. We don't have many issues that involve the
federal government. But when we do, we would
appreciate it if you were responsive."
Since then, Bennett says, the LDS Church has
"never, ever come to me and said, 'I hope you vote
this way on a particular bill.' "
Except once: Martin's Cove.
LDS officials gathered Bennett, Hatch, Reid, Smith
and Mike Crapo of Idaho and laid out the church's
desire to lease federal land in Wyoming where 200
Mormon pioneers perished in a blizzard. Each senator
promised his support; Congress granted the lease.
Orders from Salt Lake are rare, but the very
possibility worries critics.
In 1998, when Ernest Istook, a Mormon convert of
30 years, was running for re-election in his Oklahoma
district, his opponent questioned the congressman's
vote for an appropriations bill that included money
for Salt Lake City's light-rail system. His opponent
claimed he was beholden to Utah because of his church
membership.
"It succeeded in offending a lot of people,"
Istook said. "But it wasn't much of a factor."


Parties at church

Like most Mormons, D.C. Saints lean to the right
politically. Scot and Maurine Proctor, editors of the
online Mormon magazine Meridian, are exploring the
possibility of organizing Mormons to push family
values legislation. Charles Carriker owns an
international fund-raising and advertising agency
specializing in pro-life and anti-pornography issues.
Attorney Lew Cramer helped the Republican National
Committee recruit 1,000 Utah students, mostly Mormon,
for President Bush's re-election campaign in
"battlefront states." Then he called "Jeopardy" phenom
Ken Jennings.
One problem. Jennings is a Democrat.
That puts him in good company. House Minority
Leader Harry Reid, the most senior Mormon elected
official, is also a Democrat. Reid joined the church
while attending USU in Logan, but rose to prominence
as Nevada's gaming commissioner. Knowing his church's
opposition to gambling, he dutifully sought his
bishop's advice before taking the job.
"The bishop said, 'if you don't take it, I will,' "
Reid recalls fondly.
He knows that some Mormons question his religious
commitment because he's a Democrat, saying
sarcastically, "Yeah, after work I go out drinking and
carousing with women." Not so. He has always been
worthy to enter a temple, his stake president says,
and regularly attends General Conference in Salt Lake
City.
Reid has organized the Mormon Democrats in
Congress with all of four members. They take their
Mormon beliefs to build a case for defending the
uninsured, protecting social services and fighting for
human rights abroad. One ward features "a hotbed of
anti-war, anti-Bush, even pro-choice members," with a
high councilman who "puts out e-mails on a daily basis
taking the president to task for being a war monger
and liar."
Democrats are the subject of good-natured ribbing,
but political antagonism rarely emerges in D.C. wards.
There's more tension between Cougar and Ute fans in
the metropolitan wards, quips Scot Proctor.
That could be because Mormons don't have any kind
of political hegemony. They feel and act like a tribe
- with internal loyalty that crosses party lines, a
common lifestyle and language that binds them.
"Harry Reid is one of the most genuine, good
individuals in the U.S. Senate," says Nixon, a
lobbyist on the other side of most issues. "He is an
invaluable and gifted leader. Such diversity is
extremely healthy for the church."

From the outside

Still, Mormons in D.C. find their faith
misunderstood, or even, demonized. Most politicians
know about polygamy (abandoned in 1890), the Osmonds
and the Olympics, but very little else.
That's among the reasons for the church's public
affairs arm in D.C. - to increase its visibility and
burst stereotypes. At its invitation, Jim Towey, White
House director of the faith-based initiatives,
attended the BYU dinner, for example.
Ann Santini, wife of former Congressman James
Santini of Nevada, helps organize lectures and
exhibits at the temple, which has become a D.C.
landmark. She hosts 50 to 60 ambassadors at the annual
Christmas tree lighting ceremony there and at an
autumn party at the Marriotts' luxurious ranch in
Virginia.
It's slow, but worth the effort, says Bill
Marriott. "I just got off the phone with an Arab
ambassador who was at the Christmas lighting. He now
has a better, more favorable image of the church."
Sometimes, the LDS prohibition against coffee,
alcohol and tobacco sets Mormons outside the often
well-lubricated social flow.
Mormon convert Paul A. Yost Jr. spent nearly four
decades in the U.S. Coast Guard, eventually rising to
the very top as commandant. While serving as an
admiral, Yost invited Eddy Hebert, chairman of House
Armed Forces Committee, to a reception at his home.
Hebert asked for a bourbon and water, but got only
fruit punch.
"Admiral doesn't serve alcohol in quarters, sir,"
his timid aide explained.
Standing in the midst of a hundred guests, Hebert
bellowed, "How the hell'd he make admiral then?"
There is, though, a subtler challenge coming from
Evangelical Christians.
In caucuses, committees and Congress, Mormons and
Evangelicals have united to oppose gambling, abortion,
euthanasia and same-sex marriage. But the two part
company over theology. Evangelicals define Mormonism,
with its extra scriptures and alternative view of God,
as non-Christian. That view proscribes close social
ties between the two, says political scientist John
Green of the University of Akron.
At a White House gathering of religious leaders in
the aftermath of Sept. 11, LDS Church President Gordon
B. Hinckley was not invited to join a smaller group
meeting with Bush. Apostle Dallin Oaks pointed out the
exclusion to Bush adviser Karl Rove, assuring him that
the LDS Church could be a strong ally if treated well.

And the 2004 National Day of Prayer organizer,
Shirley Dobson of Focus on the Family, refused to let
a Mormon offer a prayer.
"A lot of Evangelicals in Congress participate in
Bible study, prayer groups and other worship
activities," Green says. "It might be difficult to
include a Mormon."
That's simplistic, says David Gribbin, a top aide
to Dick Cheney during his days in Congress, the
Defense Department and Halliburton. Gribbin was
trained as a Methodist minister and had been invited
to lead a weekly Bible study on Capitol Hill when he
decided to join the LDS Church. Gribbin called the
Senate chaplain, thinking the invitation might be
rescinded, but was told to go ahead so long as he
focused only on the Bible.
Kyle Sampson, deputy chief of staff in the Justice
Department, speaks fondly of his interaction with
former Attorney General John Ashcroft, perhaps the
highest-profile Evangelical in government. Sampson
says he and Ashcroft had long talks about God, mercy
and justice.
"We're building bridges and making progress with
the Evangelicals," Mormon attorney Cramer says. "But
we have a ways to go."
pstack@sltrib.com,
gehrke@sltrib.com
Editor's note: Tribune reporter Peggy Fletcher
Stack is the niece of Sen. Bob Bennett.


Mormons in D.C.

1839
Mormon founder Joseph Smith seeks redress of LDS
grievances from President Martin Van Buren, who
reportedly responds: "Your cause is just but I can do
nothing for you."

1844
Smith runs for president to challenge federal
policies hostile to Mormons. In June, he is killed by
a mob.

1857-58
President James Buchanan sends 2,500 soldiers to
Utah to replace Territorial Governor Brigham Young,
believing that Mormons were disloyal to the country.
1890
Church President Wilford Woodruff issues a
"Manifesto" discontinuing polygamy. Six years later
Utah becomes the 45th state.

1898
B. H. Roberts, an LDS general authority and
convicted polygamist, is elected to the U.S. House of
Representatives but it refuses to seat him because of
polygamy.

1903
LDS Apostle (and monogamist) Reed Smoot is elected
to the Senate but is seated provisionally while
hearings scrutinize the church, its doctrines, temple
practices and loyalty to the country. He served five
terms before being being defeated by Mormon Democrat
Elbert D. Thomas.

1920-33
First LDS branch is organized in D.C. J. Willard
and Alice Marriott set up an A&W Root Beer downtown.
That would come the multinational, multibillion-dollar
Marriott Corp., and a Mormon chapel modeled after the
Salt Lake Temple is completed.

1953-61
LDS Apostle Ezra Taft Benson serves as secretary of
Agriculture for Dwight Eisenhower. From 1961 to 1969
Stewart Udall serves as secretary of Interior for John
F. Kennedy and Lyndon B. Johnson.

1965
Mormon Tabernacle Choir sings at Lyndon Johnson's
inauguration and will sing at the inaugurations of
five presidents.

1968
Michigan Gov. George Romney, father of
now-Massachusetts Gov. Mitt Romney, makes a run at the
U.S. presidency but falters in the primary with a
comment about being brainwashed by generals on
Vietnam.

1969
J. Willard Marriott organizes Richard Nixon's
inauguration; David M. Kennedy is named Nixon's
secretary of the Treasury and George Romney is named
secretary of Housing and Urban Development.

1974
Washington, D.C., temple in Kensington, Md., is
dedicated, first U.S. temple east of Utah. Within a
few years, the church launches its annual Christmas
Tree Lighting Ceremony at the temple as a way to raise
the church's profile, especially among ambassadors.

1978
Sonia Johnson denounces the LDS Church efforts
against the Equal Rights Amendment before the Senate's
Constitutional Rights Subcommittee. In December 1979,
Johnson is excommunicated from the church for
allegedly "preaching false doctrine, undermining
authority of church leaders and hurting the church's
missionary effort."

2004
Gordon B. Hinckley receives the Medal of Honor in
the White House.

Wednesday, December 06, 2006

peace, love + joy!


Sepia Light Kids
Originally uploaded by bandanamomaz.
2006 was a good year! An update for those who care:

Question: What is Kirk's new nickname?

Answer: Picasso

Kirk has been super busy all year working on becoming a "real" artist. In July he approached an Art Gallery with some of his work and we were so happy when they accepted him to the gallery for representation and asked him to prepare to do a show in November. His show was up in the gallery all during the month of November and sold very well. He has now been asked to prepare for another show in March! (the gallery's website is:www.artonegalleryinc.com) Of course in the meantime he's still an attorney by day, but by night he is usually standing in his studio with paintbrush in hand. It has been great! (Kirk's art website is www.kirkhaysart.com)

Question: Is Lezlee ever going to do anything besides sell bras on the internet?

Answer: YES! (and for those of you who didn't know, yes, Lezlee does sell bras on the internet)

Lezlee has been accepted to Bachelor program at BYU which allows students to finish (most) of their degree from home. Her degree will be in Psychology, which is what she always wanted to do. She just finished her first class and got an A! Finishing this program will be a step towards being able to attend Graduate School and finish her Masters in Psychology/Counseling. She's still got a long ways ahead of her but it feels good to be back on track.

Question: Would Holden drive an old car?

Answer: He better be driving an old car, that would explain the monthly car mechanic bills!

Holden lifguarded this summer and will be going back this year. He taught swim lessons and this summer he may be working as the Dive Coach. It was a really great experience for him. He actually really liked teaching swimming lessons to the little kids. He used the money he earned to buy a 1972 Buick Electra we like to call the Hulk. It's actually a really awesome car and it's his favorite color, bright green. He is HEAVILY involved in Speech and Debate right now and loving it. So that brings the total number of extracuricular activities he's been involved in up to ...oh don't know like 124? He will be a senior next year which is freaking his parents out! After that he's planning on college and a mission. Yikes. Girls are also a rather large part of his life as one might imagine!

Question:Where's Brennan?
Answer: He is around here somewhere reading last I checked...and by that I mean if you are looking for Brennan just look for the books because that is where he will be. He asked for 50 books for Christmas and that's all he wants. Weird? Yes. Are we proud? Of course! He keeps us laughing with a rather Chris Farley-like sense of humor. Brains and Humor you ask? Of course! Look at his parents! What else did you expect?

Question: Is Jordan as sweet as she looks?

Answer: We plead the 5th. However we will say that she is an amazing little girl with boundless energy and enthusiasm. Does she ever just veg out and watch tv for a while? No! Do we wish she would sometimes? Yes! She is either talking or doing, doing, doing. or talking. and talking. You get the idea. She wants books on being a surgeon for Christmas because she's discovered a website that teaches you how to do surgery geared towards children. We are in the process of hiding all the sharp instruments just in case.

WE MISS EVERYONE AND HOPE TO HEAR FROM YOU SOON!
Love, the Hays Family

Monday, November 13, 2006

Listen


Listen
Originally uploaded by bandanamomaz.
I love this photo of Jordi with all her great freckles.

Thursday, October 05, 2006

I heart the office and related geekiness


and brush our teeth!
Originally uploaded by Sea Lion.
Because I'm an OFFICE geek like that, just thought I'd say this is officially the best show ever.

Tuesday, September 19, 2006

September


September
Originally uploaded by Rosina.
The kids are back in school - it's finally quiet in the house again during the day.

Friday, September 08, 2006

Kids in Cali


Kids in Cali
Originally uploaded by bandanamomaz.
These are my kids. I love them. So much of my life involves taking caring of them - in a physical tangible, they cost money, kind of way, of course, but also in another way. The intangible things you can't explain. Their happiness is so precious.

Wednesday, July 26, 2006

Monday, July 24, 2006

Summer Wind


Summer Wind
Originally uploaded by bandanamomaz.
Summer's winding down. One more swim meet. Kids are starting to get bored. Back to School soon. It's always bittersweet.

Wednesday, June 28, 2006

"bleating heart"


"bleating heart"
Originally uploaded by Daniel Dean.
Wore my John Cusack Tshirt today. Was in a weird mood. In a weird, can't really describe kind of way. Untethered. I guess.

Saturday, June 24, 2006

Summer - no time!


P1030602
Originally uploaded by holdyglenn.
I thought things would calm down a bit with summer, but I'm still as busy as ever. I drive the kids to swim and dive every morning and by the time we get back home it's around noon. Weekends are killer because I need to catch up on bills and shopping, cleaning, etc. and the kids are getting really bored. It's getting too hot for them to want to swim in our pool. Which always cracks me up. They can't wait to go swimming when it's like March and I won't even consider going near it because it's WAY too cold. But right around now - in full swing of summer, they are swimmed out. They'll have to be coaxed and begged to get into until school starts, then it will start to seem appealing again. Kids. I dont want to sound like one of those moms...when I was a kid, etc, but seriously, when I was a kid the best we had was one of those dumb plastic swimming pools you fill with the hose and we had so much delight every summer in using those things - now it seems like disgusting water with a lot of grass blades floating about not to mention the odd bee - but at the time it was close as we were going to get to having our own pool. KIDS.

Wednesday, May 10, 2006

The Pool


The Pool
Originally uploaded by takau99.
Soon, very soon, this is where I will be every day.

Wednesday, May 03, 2006

Summertime


pool
Originally uploaded by Rosie O'Donnell.
Everythings a bit crazy around here - schools ending and summer is getting started in a few weeks, it's already Arizona heat time - 100 degrees some days. Kids are already in the pool. Holden got a lifeguard job at a good City pool which is great! Kids are getting ready for swim and dive team to start. Even though it's so hot here in the summer, I really love it - I sit by the pool and watch the kids swim and watch them compete at their meets and sometimes, in the mornings when all the kids are practicing and the sky is such a pretty shade and the palm trees are swaying in the slight breeze and the color of the pool is that perfect aquamarine, I just think, WOW, what a great way to spend your summers as a kid - I know some people think it's so hot and their kids can't play outside because it's TOO hot and all of that, but honestly, if you have your kids involved in aquatics and you have a pool at home - I can't think of a better way to spend a summer.

Sunday, April 02, 2006

Fridge Henge


holy ghost
Originally uploaded by nicoalesce.
This photo has nothing to do with anything. I just like the idea that someone went to the trouble of creating a fridge henge somewhere. Kinda awesome. Anyway I could do a big long blog essay on the return from our vacation to Scotland - and it was awesome, but I'm not really in the mood to go into all the details. Suffice to say that it was a really nice vacation. And Fridge Henges are cool.

Monday, March 20, 2006

Friday, March 17, 2006

I'm exhausted


Rain Soaked (14)
Originally uploaded by Special.
Do you ever drive around and get the feeling that your life would make a good and interesting movie (with proper editing that is) and then other times you think...nah, it would just be boring as all hell. That's what I think - both, all the time. Sometimes I listen to 91.5 on my radio (most of the time actually) which is NPR, which I love and don't even get me started on my This American Life obsession because I totally love that radio show - but sometimes I'm inside out and I listen to 95.1 which is Latin Vibe. Which is really weird and I have no idea why I do that. Most of the songs are in spanish, which I do not speak, except to catch the ocassional phrase here and there but that's me. Actually that sorta says a lot about me. That and the fact that I never listen to latin vibe when other people are in the car. That also says something too I guess.

Tuesday, March 14, 2006

Red cloud


Red cloud
Originally uploaded by gwilmore.
This would be on the top of the list of the reasons we moved to arizona. So indescribably great are the sunsets here.

standing still - observing


standing still
Originally uploaded by swissmiss.
This was one of those online personality tests....to which I say DUH!

Lezlee, you're an Observer!

This means you're one of the more kind-hearted people around. You are unusually intuitive, and you probably understand yourself, as well as others. That also means you're a good mediator — though you may prefer to spend more time on your own than most.

You are better equipped than many to steer your life in the right direction. Understanding more about the components of your personality will reveal unique information that even people like you might not realize. And the better you know yourself, the more confident you'll be making decisions that affect your life.

Sunday, March 12, 2006

BirdVision


BirdVision
Originally uploaded by amsabri.
From Sass as she tagged some folks on minday with this:

Six things no one sorta' doesn't know (well or most people anyway):

1. I'm terrified of birds...particularly blackbirds, ravens, seagulls, starlings and pigeons.

2. I fall asleep during chase scenes in movies - they bore me to death.

3. People blurt out personal things to me all the time - complete strangers, I have a certain affect on people.

4. I hate it if I hate someone and have to figure out a way to feel sorry for them instead so I can let go of the ill feelings.

5. I keep people's secrets pretty well.

6. I love to go the movies alone, and usually won't tell my husband or best friend if I do it - it's a SECRET.

That's all for today except:

Why do I over-commit myself so much where church is involved? I always feel this compulsion to say yes to everything and I feel terrible if I have to say no. And I think it's because I get easily annoyed with the people who say "I'm too busy, I can't" because then 10% of us end up doing 90% of the work and it's always that way. But I never want to be in that 90% who does the 10% of the work. But they're probably on to something if you think about it.

Thursday, March 09, 2006

Sunlight


Sunlight
Originally uploaded by Anna Overseas.
I'm quite excited we get to go here soon! Equally terrified that I'm not ready at all!

Saturday, March 04, 2006

Favorites and other random thoughts...It's late



Originally uploaded by kilotes.
Four jobs I’ve had:

Picking Raspberries on my grandpas farm, early in the morning while in high school, he let me keep all the profits from the sale of said raspberries and the other main job benefit was that I would occasionaly see the boys moving pipe walking past with their shirts off and their wonderful summer tans displayed.

Information Desk girl at the College Campus (BYU Idaho - aka Ricks) where I basically worried mostly about looking cute every day because it was a great place to be seen and show off my fashion sense. Disemenation of information was actually only secondarily important. Actually flirting with co-workers and passer-bys while still trying to seem professional in my heels and skirt was second, disemenation of information third.

Worked for a complete hard ass as a secretary for 3 years and hold the record for working for that particular hard ass. So I feel sickly proud or like a complete massochist, I'm never sure exactly which.

Made shaved ice from a "sno shack" over one summer. Favorite flavor? (cause I sampled all 35 of them baby) mix some Tigers Blood and some Sour Pink Lemonade. You can't beat it. That didn't even seem like a real job. Except when you had to use the ice pick on the big humongous block of ice, I thought ice picks were made up devices used in movies to murder people. But they are real and they are sharp and they are hard to use and the COULD most defintely kill someone.


Four movies I can watch over and over:

Let's start with a John Cusack movie and see if they all turn out that way or if I can come up with something other than my JC obsession:
1. Grosse Pointe Blank, love John, love Martin, love the premise, never gets old even though I now know every single solitary line of the movie
2. Pretty In Pink - cheesey yes, but 80s awesome, totally. And I still want to be Molly Ringwald and drive that damn Carmen Ghia. My parents very well might have ruined the 80s for me by not buying me that car. Never get sick of it.
3. The Graduate. It never gets old. I notice new nuanced lines every time I watch it. Benjamin at the bottom of that pool...doesn't everyone feel like Benjamin at the bottom of the pool half the time?
4. Amelie. Greatest film ever maybe. So gorgeous, so oddly uplifting. Makes me want to live in Paris and you could even watch it with the sound off and it would satisfy over and over and over, but with the sound on and the Yan Tiersen soundtrack, you can't go wrong.

Four places I’ve lived:

Rexburg Idaho
West Yellowstone Montana
Salt Lake City Utah
Charlottesville Virginia

(that's not an all inclusive list but that's 4)

4 TV shows I've loved:

BEWITCHED!
6 Feet Under!
Brady Bunch
The Office

Four places I’ve vacationed:

Tough to list just four but
1. London/Scotland
2. Rocky Point Mexico
3. San Francisco California
4. Disneyland

Four of my favorite dishes:

Pastas - especially Farfalle With Chicken from Cheesecake Factory

My own fried chicken

Panda Orange Chicken

Kiddy cereals...esp, Captain Crunch, Apple Jacks & Honey Smacks with skim milk!

Four sites I visit daily:

Ebay
Flickr
Mindsay (secretive lair of JC fans)
Go Fug Yourself

Four places I would rather be right now:

Vegas baby (preferably the spa at the Mandalay)

On a warm beach, white clean sand, diet coke at hand, licorice, bad magazines, good books, comfy chair, cool clean ocean water to dip in whenever I feel like it.

Bed, sound asleep having really great, non-anxiety dreams.

London, just exploring.

4 Books I highly recommend:

1. Life of Pi

2. Catcher in the Rye (and if you come back and tell me you didn't like it I will probably not ever see you in the same light ever again, also you have to at least imagine that you're about 19 while you're reading it)

3. To Kill A Mockingbird

4. The Bell Jar

Random Chess Thoughts

So I’m at this chess tournament thing for Brennan. And we’ve never done this before. And it’s exactly like I thought it would be. Like on searching for Bobby Fischer. All these kids, in a room, with signs on the windows telling the parents to stay back. I’m looking around at all these kids and their parents and this is a totally different set of kids and parents than the ones that you see at the Basketball games or the baseball games - things like that. Those parents always make me feel nerdy. Like I don’t really fit in, and they’re all in their team tshirts and yelling and screaming and telling their kids what to do and I’m always just sort of observing, and quietly, in my head, praying for my child and praying he will do the best he can and just nervous. Too nervous to chit chat with the other parents and then you get the looks. Looks like “she’s the one whose kid is making us loose”. Becuase quite frankly none of my kids have ever been very good at sports. And you sign them up for all these teams when they are young because you want to give them a shot and see if they have any aptitude and because they beg to do it. But then they’re on the team and it becomes painfully obvious that all these other parents are spending a lot of time teaching their kids the fundamentals of the game and all these other parents are obviously throwing a ball around in the back yard a whole lot with their kids and well...I was never any good at sports and I’m just not that mom. And quite frankly, Kirk has never really been that dad. So now I’m here. On my laptop, which seemed a novel idea, but actually the place is filled with parents on their laptops. Which I find amusing, because I’ve never seen a laptop at a baseball game. But here...to be honest, I am defintely not fitting in either. Because I’m not a big enough nerd or brainiac or whatever for this. These parents are actually practicing chess with their kids on portable chess sets before the tournament starts and they are all dressed for comfort. Which can mean a lot of different things but there are a lot of Tiva sandals and fleece jackets and occassionaly bad track suits. Once in a while there’s a mom with a Dooney and Bourke bag and carefully coiffed hair and expertly brown and blonde dye job who looks at her child like “how did I wind up with a nerdy kid like you?”. But I don’t really fit here either. Because, I don’t know, I’ve got on my black converse and my damaged jeans and a tshirt and levi jacket. These are the same black converse that Kurt Cobain was wearing when he committed suicide, or when Courtney had him killed, depending on which version you believe. And that’s just it, I’m pretty sure nobdy here is really up on the controversy of whether or not Courtney Love might have had Kurt Cobain killed because he was about to divorce her lipstick smeared drugged out ass. And I’m also pretty sure nobody here would care. So me and my obscure knowledge about where John Cusack is buying his latest apartment/penthouse and the ins and outs of the Seattle “Grunge Rock” scene’s beginnings are not really the norm here. To be honest, I’m not really sure they’re the norm anywhere - because frankly I’ve never been able to figure out just which kind of parent I am. I’m not really the cool parent who thinks underage drinking is just the norm and “fine with it - they’re going to start sometime” (these by the way are the same parents who freaked out when their kids rode their bikes without their bicycle helmets). And I’m also not the over-protective huvering type. I like to watch children challenge themselves and I don’t know, I just don’t have it in me to panic if my kid is riding his skateboard without his safety pads. But I’ll buy the safetypads. But I don’t have it in me to worry about the lot of things “normal” parents seem to worry about. So I don’t know what that says. I’m not the parent who wants my kids roaming the streets unsupervised but I’m also not the parent who freaks out to leave her nine year old home alone for an hour, if neccessary. As a parent I often feel an odd mixture of being over-involved in their lives and under-involved. Selfish and self-less at odds with each other all the time. But I’ll sit here for 4 hours while my kid plays chess, my butt on the hard pavement, typing this out on my keypad so I don’t really have to interact or talk to any of these other parents. So I guess I’m that parent.

There are teenagers who look like they just don’t quite know where they fit into society yet. Or maybe even where they will fit into society. And that’s interesting to watch. Because you just wonder, is this kid going to turn into the next Bill Gates or is this kid going to wind up in some sub managerial role in a small firm just content to enforce the “rules” of the office. Like Dwight on “The Office”. There is a group of five boys roaming around who are probably 13 or so and I just realized one of them is a girl. Her legs are shaped slightly differently from the boys and ilook freshly shaved, f you look really closely you can see that she has prettier softer features. Not like a pretty boy but like a girl who is trying to just hang with the guys. Her hair is the same length as all her guy friends, but all her guy friends have should or chin length hair. She’s wearing skater clothes, baggy sweatshirt, cutoff jean shorts and skater shoes in black. It’s so easy to miss that she’s a girl. She blends in so well. But not in that butchy tomboy girl sort of way, although I’m sure she considers herself a tomboy. But more in a, this is my comfort zone, kind of way. For now, for this little bit of time, I am a chess nerd. Later she might be a raving beauty. But for now, she hangs out with the guys and plays chess and probably skateboards. And I heard her make the comment “I should make a documentary called ‘The Freaks I Hang Out With’. Which made me smile.

Sunday, February 26, 2006

A Gondola Glides Down the Venetian's Canal

I forgot to mention that
Vegas was awesome last month. Wish we could go there all the time. And for LONGER. So relaxing.

Lezlee

Friday, February 24, 2006

Diet Coke & Valium



Originally uploaded by Babsi Jones.
I always said this was the perfect diet for a mom.

Random thoughts: I like the babybel cheese that's covered in wax and the way the wax unfurls when you pull the little tag. Ingenious.

I like being alone in the house.

The perfect time of day is about 10:58 pm.

The worst time of day is about 5:00 pm

Hard licorice is still good.

Tranquility is difficult to find but on those rare occassions when you do manage to capture it they are memorable and great. Times I remember as tranquil:

Sun Valley Idaho in 1981 w/ Alicia

The spa at the Mirage w/ Shannon the year 2000

The pool at the Mandalay Bay 2003

A hottub at a hotel in Salt Lake City when I was about 16 years old, by myself under a starry sky.

Mexico, always in Mexico, on the beach with my licorice.

Stolen moments in the car when it's cold outside but the sun warms the entire interior of the car. Sometimes I won't get out of the car when it's like that. Like a cat.

Sunbathing in my backyard between the ages of 13-17, the smell of Hawaiian Tropicana Suntan oil in my nose - or Baby Oil.

Love's babysoft perfume circa 1981.

Scotland in the ruined Abby's.

Bubble baths and one in particular when I was 17 and realized I was 17 - like really KNEW I was only 17 and that I was free, free, free and I would never be that free ever again. That was the moment I realized childhood was about to end, but I remember it fondly.

Curling up in the fetal position and falling asleep when you don't mean to.

College Campus'. Always feel tranquil on them. Every time.

Under a tree in provo utah, writing.

On my bed in my room in provo utah, writing.

These moments are not to be confused with happiness or bliss - those are very different states.

Monday, February 20, 2006

0013. nirvana


0013. nirvana
Originally uploaded by fotorabia.
Feeling obsessive about Kurt Cobain again...don't know why I do that, for a while it was Andy Warhol...then years later serial killers....kinda weird. Kurt Cobain was a couple of years ago and now I feel a renewed interest. And sometimes I wonder how as a suburban/urban housewife whose life is basically the complete diametric opposite of Kurt Cobain can feel an affinity for the man. But somewhow I do. I think sometimes I want to save the crazy people...or I relate, or something. I dunno. I try not to worry about it too much just live it or whatever.

Saturday, February 18, 2006

Bangalore

We went out to dinner with some of our good friends last night. Turns out they are moving to Bangalore India for at about two years while he sets up a branch law firm there for the national firm he works for. They amaze me because they have 2 little toddlers and they are so advenurous. I feel so boring and domestic by comparison. But would I really have ever moved to Bangalore?

Friday, February 17, 2006

Sunday, February 12, 2006

Loch Ness


Loch Ness #1
Originally uploaded by ellen.w.
I'm trying to plan a trip to Scotland for us next month. It's getting a bit tough because there is always more than you can possibly see in 10 days, and Kirk and I have been there before but this time we are taking Holden so you kind of want to let him see some of the same cook things you already saw. We saw this castle last time - that's loch ness in the background.

Thursday, February 09, 2006

violent-femmes-


violent-femmes-sarvodaya
Originally uploaded by sarvodaya.org.
I'm kinda bummed because I just found out the Violent Femmes were at the Marquee like 2 weeks ago and I totally missed it! I usually check to see when they're coming to town but last time I checked they were only coming to Tucson and not to Phoenix. Dang. Anyway, I am EXHAUSTED today. SERIOUSLY exhausted. It's bad when you are driving your kids to school and you keep wondering if it would be okay to close just one eye, just for a little while. I have this bad situation where I am a total night owl and have tons of energy at night and really don't ever want to go to bed but then I have to be up at 5 am to get Holden going. If I can figure out a way to take a nap today, I totally have to do it. But missing the Femmes - that makes me sad...they usually only come once a year.

Wednesday, February 08, 2006

Violent Femmes


Brian Ritchie's pick!
Originally uploaded by willgorman.
I heart the Violent Femmes. Seriously. I heart Gordon the most. And I will always love the Violent Femmes, so I will never age. Because that's the bargain you make when you sign on to be a Violent Femmes fan forever. Same reason I'll always love Holden Caulfield, and even though JD Salinger might turn out to be a real bastard - it could just be because he stopped believing in Holden. So I hold on to Holden, and I hold on to the Violent Femmes, and that's how I hold on to my still deeply held belief in Santa Claus, because kind of, in a way, I refuse to grow up.

Wednesday, February 01, 2006

Wind in her Hair


Wind in her Hair
Originally uploaded by bandanamomaz.
We took all these photos of Hollie downtown and they all turned out so great. This is one of the digitals but the ones I took with my Nikon were shockingly good as well. Kirk is using them to start a series of paintings. She's almost the perfect model. She pretty but not too perfect looking - she got the whole long leg thing but her face is interesting. The light and the wind were very cooperative. I wish most of my days were filled with creative endeavors rather than what they usually ARE filled with.

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